Move beyond performative allyship for your 2SLGBTQ+ employees

Employers need to create work cultures that are safe for people to bring their authentic selves while also making space for people to learn from their mistakes, Simmonds said. "When [Canada Life] talks about innovation, we put failure as a key requirement," he said. "We talk about learning lessons from failures. The challenge in DEI work is that the margin of error is often on [marginalized] people… We must accept that at no point is hurting individuals appropriate, but we must invite people to a space where we build a better culture." Simmonds cautioned companies from expecting 2SLGBTQ+ and other employees from non-dominant groups to bring more of themselves to professional settings than they desired. "Bring as much of yourself to work that unlocks your potential and drives the business forward," he suggested as an invitation. Employees should have the agency to adapt how they show up and contribute to the organization.

According to Hanen, a company must be clear about its "why" to move beyond performative allyship to genuine commitment, finding its "swim lane." "[At TD Bank], the two things we keep in mind are: First, what's our 'why'? For us, our 'why' is creating safe and inclusive spaces for our employees. And that informs where we take our positions," said Hanen. "And second, we must be prepared for backlash. You expect it. You know it's coming. And so, you're prepared to deal with that." The substance of an organization's commitment doesn't change because of external criticism if you stay grounded in your purpose. "Allyship is an expression of values," Hanen explained. In today's world of 2SLGBTQ+ advocacy, "we have an embarrassment of rich resources around us that can tell us how to be better allies," said Hanen. "The downside of that is that it can lead to performativity, what to add rather than why." "As we look forward, what the lessons of history tell us is that we have to remember that people have to learn how and why to care, not just how and why to act," she concluded.

During this cultural moment of pushback against the 2SLGBTQ+ community, both panelists agreed: make some noise. "As soon as things like this start to happen, our employees wonder, are we still with them?" said Hanen. "The first thing organizations need to do is reaffirm their unwavering commitment." Bringing in a historical perspective, Hanen explained how the early 2SLGBTQ+ movement benefitted from the fact that most people realized they had a gay or lesbian person in their lives. But with today's backlash against the smaller transgender and gender nonconforming (TGNC) population, there's a greater need for allies to amplify and platform the stories and lived experiences of TGNC colleagues. Simmonds added: "I don't think the majority of society wants to do things that are negative to their neighbors, loved ones, and friends." However, "there is a mythology developing that's untrue, not grounded in fact, and is damaging," he said. "So, if you have the ability or platform to speak up, to lend your voice, I challenge you to do that because that's the only way we deconstruct what's happening on the other side of the argument."

Companies can better ground themselves in this work by asking one question: "How do you build heroes, not bullies and bystanders?" Simmonds concluded the session by referencing The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander by Barbara Coloroso, which describes how parents teach their kids to be one of those three things. "How do we [teach our kids to be heroes]?" asked Simmonds. "We teach [them] to care deeply, to share willingly, and to give generously. And often, when I have conversations about uncomfortable realities of identity, I say, if you can anchor it back into those three things, you're a better leader and manager."